As you read this, I’m in Costa Rica celebrating my 30th anniversary. Yippee! And it makes me think about how much writing is like marriage.
How you ask? I’m glad you brought it up.
Here’s my hit list of ways aspiring writers mirror newlyweds:
- Adjustment to a new commitment takes time, and impatience slows the process down.
- Adding a new person, or thing to our lives, brings chaos and confusion, along with excitement.
- Daily responsibilities, and crisis, interfere with time we want to spend on our commitments.
- About the time we think we’re getting the relationship figured out, a new wrinkle creates conflict.
After the honeymoon period, writers like young married’s, follow a familiar pattern:
- The luster wears off, and we no longer want to spend time with our commitment at the same level of anticipation.
- We start discovering there are things we didn’t know — that we didn’t know.
- After awhile, we realize we’ve gotten into a rut, and must figure out how to climb out.
- The value of adding support systems, including people with more experience, becomes apparent.
Maturity brings the peace we’ve chased for so long:
- After achieving publication, like achieving marital success, we relax and begin to enjoy the relationship at a deeper level.
- With success, confidence grows, empowering us to venture past insecurity into areas of communication we feared in the past.
- Now we have the privilege of passing onto others the wisdom we’ve gained through our own experiences.
- We can look back on our history, and celebrate the past, even as we look forward to more good things in our future.
Marriage and writing both help us grow as human beings. They stretch us, allow us to express our true selves, and provide a springboard for us to fulfill our purposes. I pray you have a long and lasting relationship with your writing commitment.
What similarities do you see between writing and marriage?
Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business and Inspirational Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Expert, Certified Training Facilitator, Communications Specialist, national speaker, and author of the soon-to-be released book, First Hired, Last Fired — How to Become Irreplaceable in Any Job Market.
She’s a partner in The Zenith Zone, a business coaching firm. Member of the Christian Writer’s Guild, client of WordServe Literary Group, graduate of CLASSeminars for Leaders, Speakers, and Authors, a co-founder of The StoryWriting Studio, and speaker on circuit for Stonecroft International Ministries.
Anita’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research. She believes it’s never too late for a fresh start with fresh faith. Anita lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.