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Five Ways to Handle Stress in Your Writing Process

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I first wrote this post for the WordServe Water Cooler in March of 2012, but I thought you might have missed it. Plus, I needed to read it again myself, since I’ve faced some stress in my own writing life lately. I hope it encourages you.

Are you overwhelmed with stress in your writing life? The book of Lamentations offers a clear word on how to deal with stress. “When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear” (Lam. 3:28-29 MSG).

1. Go off by yourself. Solitude often seems impossible for me, even with an “empty nest.” But Jesus knew the importance of spending time alone with His Father. When He needed to listen, He would pull away from everyone. Matthew 14 says that after Jesus fed the 5,000, He “climbed the mountain so he could be by himself and pray. He stayed there alone, late into the night” (23).

2. Enter the silence. When we seek God in silence, often the accuser (Rev. 12:10) tries to distract us with fear, like in the story of Hannah (1 Samuel 1). Hanna’s husband had two wives—talk about stress! And her husband’s other wife taunted her year after year, blaming and accusing God for Hannah’s inability to conceive children. Then, when Hannah prayed, her spiritual leader misunderstood her. “Hannah was praying in her heart, silently. Her lips moved, but no sound was heard. Eli jumped to the conclusion that she was drunk” (13).

3. Bow in prayer. Prayer can be as natural as talking with a good friend or as intimate as sharing a secret whisper. It can occur any time of day, no matter where you are or what you are doing. God promises that if we call on His Name, He’ll listen. “And if we’re confident that he’s listening, we know that what we’ve asked for is as good as ours” (1 John 5:15).

4. Don’t ask questions. My questions often interfere with my communication with God—I’m talking, instead of listening. When Jesus taught His disciples, He asked them on several occasions, “Are you listening to this? Really listening?” (Matt.11:15).

5. Wait for hope to appear. Waiting rooms seem to bring out the worst in me, like my impatience or frustration. But waiting does not have to be hopeless. The psalmist speaks of “waiting” in Psalm 40, “I waited and waited and waited for God. At last he looked; finally he listened. He lifted me out of the ditch, pulled me from deep mud. He stood me up on a solid rock to make sure I wouldn’t slip” (1-2 MSG).

Reflection. Matthew 6:30-34 advises, “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes” (MSG).

So, remember, “When life is heavy and hard to take, go off by yourself. Enter the silence. Bow in prayer. Don’t ask questions: Wait for hope to appear” (Lam. 3:28-29 MSG).

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What helps you handle the stressful times in of your writing life?

Karen Jordan encourages others to “tell the stories that matter most.” Find links to her writing workshops, speaking topics, and other online connections www.karenbarnesjordan.com.

Write Your Stories: Begin with the End in Mind

“Beware kind friend as you pass by, where you are now, so once was I. Where I am now, you soon shall be. Prepare for death and follow me” (Resthaven Cemetery, Silsbee, Texas).

What will your epitaph say?

When my husband Dan and I were dating, we visited the local cemetery and read the tombstones with a flashlight. That seems like an odd thing for a couple to do on a date, but we lived in a small, southern town, and there were not many activities available. But the local cemeteries provided some interesting discussion points at times.

Flashback. I remember my reaction to the epitaph I that quoted at the top of this post. As I looked at the ceramic photo of the deceased on the headstone, I imagined him standing there reading his own words to me.

Encouragement. I’ve thought of this inscription several times in the past few years. I referred to it when I taught college freshmen, just beginning their academic journeys. Later, I shared this quote, as I led a group of new teachers. And now, I share it with you to encourage you to tell your stories, especially your faith stories.

Memory. My mother wrote her own epitaph; although she didn’t know it at the time she penned it. We engraved an excerpt from one of her poems on her headstone.

“Happiness, joy, God’s promise I find. My search has now ended, salvation is mine” (Nelle Baize, 2001).

What is your favorite epitaph?

Karen Jordan encourages others to “tell the stories that matter most.” Find links to her writing workshops, speaking topics, and other online connections on her personal blog/website (www.karenbarnesjordan.com).

Write Your Story: Epitaphs

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Epitaph to William Causey (English, St.Peter’s churchyard) records his untimely death in 1788 (young man of 25) “Death with his Dart / Did smite my Heart / While I was in my prime / My friends therefore / Your Grief forbear / Twas Gods appointed time” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Beware kind friend as you pass by, where you are now, so once was I. Where I am now, you soon shall be. Prepare for death and follow me. (Resthaven Cemetery, Silsbee, Texas).

What will your epitaph say?

When my husband Dan and I were dating, we visited the local cemetery and read the tombstones with a flashlight. That seems like an odd thing for a couple to do on a date, but we lived in a small, southern town, and there were not many activities available. But the local cemeteries provided some interesting discussion points at times.

Youthful reaction. I remember my initial reactionto the epitaph I quoted at the top of this post.  As I looked at the ceramic photo of the deceased on the headstone, I imagined him standing there, reading his own words to me. A surreal moment.

Academic application. I’ve thought of this inscription several times in the past few years. I referred to it when I taught college freshmen, just beginning their academic journeys. Later, I shared this quote, as I led a group of new writing teachers. And now, I share it with you to encourage you to tell your stories, especially your faith stories.

Personal example. My mother wrote her own epitaph, although she didn’t know it at the time she penned it. We engraved an excerpt from one of her poems on her headstone. “Happiness, joy, God’s promise I find. My search has now ended, salvation is mine” (Nelle Baize, 2001).

Part of Mother’s legacy was a collection of poems that she wrote. I’m so grateful that she wrote down some of her thoughts. When I read Mother’s words for the first time, I discovered a voice that I’d never heard.

I hope you will begin to tell the stories that matter most to you.

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What is your favorite epitaph?

Writing Your Family Stories: Family Photos

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Whenever we put together our own stories and either tell them or write them for posterity, we are preserving the most central element of our own identity and value system. Who are we, apart from the people and the events about which we tell our own stories? (Donald Davis, Telling Your Arkansas Stories)

Have you ever discovered an old family picture and wished that you knew the story behind it? The following questions might help you discover an important family story that you can share with the next generation!

People. Can you identify the people within the shot? If not, do you know anyone who can? Can you write a description of that person? Who else might have been around when the shot was taken?

Places. Do you know where the picture as taken? Can you describe the place or the area at that time? Do you know anything about the history of the area? What do you know about that area now?

Photo/BarnesFamilyTime. When was the shot taken? What time period? What was going on in the world at that time? What changes have taken place since that time?

Events. Do you know what event was taking place when the photo was taken? Can you tell what season of the year it was taken? What events might have been happening around that time?

Story. Does the picture remind you of a story? What came to mind as you thought about the people, places, or event that might have been taking place when the photo was taken.

Questions. You might think of even more questions that you need to ask yourself about the photo that would help you capture an important family story.

Brainstorm. Take a moment and write down your thoughts about your picture. You could even include the picture when you preserve your story—in a scrapbook, on your computer, on a blog, in a notebook … the possibilities are endless!

Legacy Stories. Don’t miss your opportunity to preserve your family history by composing a written legacy of your family stories, as you identify the details and stories represented by your family photos.

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Did this photo remind you of an person, place, or event from your own family history?

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David Andrews: Unfinished Business

I’ve decided that it’s time to admit to myself that I am now a writer.

I write poetry. I have had my poetry published, and now, I’ve recently published my first book–all in the space of about 12 months.

My writing defines part of who I am; it defines my approach to my life and my faith.

I have discovered many other writers who are travelling down this same road. It’s easy to think we are all alone, but there is great support if you know where to look.

Like most writers, I sometimes get writers block. I get stuck, and sometimes I’m not sure if something I’m working on is barely started or half-finished. I guess that would depend on whether I see my glass half full or half empty. Generally, I don’t like to do things by half, and I get great satisfaction when something is complete.

I’m discovering with writing that a half-finished poem is something great to come back to later, rework, and look at again through a different lens–change and adapt.

I have a lot of poetry and writing that is finished, and I have a lot that’s half done. I have even more that are just at the idea stage, and I haven’t really progressed much further.  No doubt there is more that I haven’t even thought about yet. I hope so.

I wrote a poem a while back, when I shelved my half-finished book, about the lonely existence of a writer and how sometimes it plays on my mind. If you’re a writer or someone who just wants to finish something, then some of these words may just resonate with you. I’d be interested in your thoughts, fully cooked or half-baked. It may just be time to start work on the other half.

Unfinished Business

On my bookshelf
Of half-finished dreams
Lies my hopes and my fears
At least that what it seems

I’ve journaled my faith
Many words I have rhymed
But now I’m stuck fast
In the malaise of time

I’ve toiled with my time
Sweated blood, hopes and fears
My dream remains only half-baked
It brings me to tears I feel half awake

I feel half awake
In my struggle for self
As cobwebs and doubts
Bury my dreams on the shelf

I feel so alone
Isolated and cold
Wondering if anyone cares
As I write and grow old

I have journeyed alone
Taking long leaps of faith
I now need your prayers
As I stray life a waif

You can help me my friend
Pray I wake from my dream
Pray my words see the light
And the lights go all green

David Andrews writes for Poetry in Motion. His writing is an expression of his faith in a world full of paradox. David is married with three sons and lives in Wellington, New Zealand.

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Feeling alone in your writing life? What advice can you offer other writers?

Why Go To Writer’s Conferences? Networking!

Why do I go to writers’ conferences? One word comes to mind–networking!

This week, I’m celebrating the release of Heavenly Company:Entertaining Angels Unaware compiled by Cec Murphey and Twila Belk!

Why? I received my contributor copies of Heavenly Company in the mail today. And I’m so honored that they chose my story, “Watchmen,” for this book.

Tara’s eyes brightened, as she continued to describe her protectors, “They wore white clothes. One of them had a big, gold sword with little drawings on the handle.” Tara traced a line on the palm of her hand, as she recalled the etchings on the sword. “His sword was really long—from his waist to the ground.” As Tara described the sword, she bent over to her side and reached to the ground with one hand and up toward the sky with the other. (Karen Jordan “Watchmen”)

I’m also grateful to Twila Belk for inviting me to submit my “angel story” for the Heavenly Company book project at the 2011 CLASS Christian Writers’ Conference. [One of the many benefits of attending such a great writers' conference!]

In this collection of real-life stories from encounters with God’s angels and mysterious, helpful strangers, Cecil Murphey and his co-writer, Twila Belk, masterfully bring together stories from all over the world that share one thing in common: the way in which God uses his messengers to touch our lives. (Heavenly Company)

I hope you’ll check out this powerful book–a compilation of stories about people “who have encountered angels, seen and unseen” (Heavenly Company).

And if you’ve never been to a writers’ conference, consider attending the 2011 CLASS Christian Writers’ Conference. You’ll be glad you did!

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What benefits have you discovered attending a writers’ conference?

Karen Jordan writes creative nonfiction about her faith, family, and writing. She also encourages others to “tell the stories that matter most” in her writing workshops, her blog, BLESSED Legacy Stories, and her website (www.karenjordan.net).

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Pam Sims: Staggering Thought

Staggering–that is my word for the week.

It seems as though writing efforts are often staggering. There is trying to find the time to get those thoughts down on paper, or maybe just trying to get some thoughts to even put down on paper! Between the 40-hour work week, taking care of my family, the deadlines, and the proposals–all of this can be staggering in terms of feeling overwhelmed.

For the past few weeks, I have been working almost continuously on two things–writing for my blog and preparing my book proposal. Writing for my blog takes a lot of effort, coming up with not just good information, but helpful and encouraging information–information that will empower, encourage and enlighten the reader.

It is a task that I do not take lightly. No writer who writes in the Christian market should and most don’t.  The scriptures tell us that we are to “rightly divide the word of truth.

This brings my writing at times almost to a complete stop. How can I do this? What if my words aren’t theologically sound? What is the basis of my writing?  Who am I to write such things?  Who will read them and how will it impact their lives?

 Staggering thoughts!!

When I begin to write there are times I do it because I feel a sense of obligation to the readers, those who will take the time to stop what they are doing for a few minutes and read my post. I want to keep them engaged, connected, and coming back again and again. If I know that there is a chance that one person may be encouraged to walk in a “manner that is worthy of the calling of Christ,” then I must be prepared spiritually for the possibility that those 500 or so words will change someone’s life.

Staggering thought.

However, my sense of obligation is not to the readers, but to my Heavenly Father. He is the reason for my having anything to say.

When my children were young and they did something I thought was extraordinary, or outstanding, I wanted everyone to know just how wonderful they were. Not just because they were my children, but because I thought what they had accomplished, or who they were, was worthy of the world knowing such great people.

We have the same opportunity to share with the world just what we think and feel about God. We can bombard people with constant twitter updates. We can blog daily and post to Facebook multiple times a day. But the message has to be one that will resonate with the one person who will take the time to read it.

I have to ask myself, What makes my message worth reading? Why do I do what I do?

It’s about the message, not the messenger.

As writers we know that a great story cannot be told unless we can tell a great story. God gives us the story, and He gives us the ability to tell it in a such a way that it will touch hearts and lives for His glory.

It is a staggering thought to know that God wants to use me to tell His story!

Pam  Sims - Writer, Speaker and Singer ~ Practicinghispresenceministry.wordpress.com @PamSimsWrites (Twitter)

Pam Sims and her husband Jim make their home in Conway where Pam serves on staff at Second Baptist Church.  She is the author of Making Designing Women out of Desperate Housewives. Pam loves to sing and is passionate about music as a vital part of worship.  She is active in the Women’s Ministry of Second Baptist Church and loves to see women using the gifts God has given them to become all God wants them to be.  She is the founder of Women of the Word Ministry, a traveling conferenece team, and Practicing His Presence Ministries.

Do your writing efforts seem staggering at times? How do you handle those moments?

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A Lesson from the Waiting Room

The LORD said to (Elijah), “Go back the way you came, and go to the Desert of Damascus. When you get there ….” (1 Kings 19:15)

One minute Elijah was running from his enemy, hiding in a cave, and crying out to the Lord. And the next moment, God was sending him on his way to his next assignment.

Can you relate to Elijah in this story? I can.

Waiting rooms. That seems to be the way life goes in most waiting rooms. You arrive in a state of panic. And you may sit, paralyzed by fear, for hours, days, weeks, or even years.

Then, one day, it’s over. It ends as fast as it started. And you’re on the road to the next life-changing event—maybe a crisis or even a new adventure or challenge, like another job, relationship, or location.

That’s where I am right now—going forward to the next phase of my life, just like Elijah. All of a sudden, I’m being called out of my safe, little hideaway, and I’m on the road to the next adventure.

Road to recovery. I’ve been hiding out in my cave for awhile now—fearful of any new commitments or change, crying out to the Lord for guidance, and waiting for clear direction for my future. And new direction requires making many decisions, leaving my cave, and traveling down a new road.

Maybe it’s best that life works this way after the waiting room. The winds of life pick you up and move you forward. And the sudden rush of the wind leaves you with no quality time to spend over-analyzing the situation.

Gratitude. But I do want to take a moment to express my gratitude for my new adventure and for the lessons that I learned in my cave.

I don’t want to re-live this last waiting room experience, but I did learn some tremendous truths in the process. And although I still battle some of the same old enemies of my mind, I know I’ve become an overcomer now, not just a survivor.

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What lessons have you learned in the waiting rooms of life? 

Karen Jordan writes creative nonfiction about her faith, family, and writing. She also encourages others to “tell the stories that matter most” in her writing workshops, her blog, BLESSED Legacy Stories, and her website (www.karenjordan.net).

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Writing Life: Living to Work or Working to Live?

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. (Col 3:23-24 NIV)

My friend, Anita Agers-Brooks, wrote a post on her blogFreshFaith @ Work asking the question, “What motivates you to work?”

Anita’s post reminds me of a comment I heard, while studying in Spain a few years ago, “Americans live to work, we work to live.”

Work to live? In Spain, they were proud to work their 8 hours (or so) a day to earn enough money to provide for their lifestyle. But they criticized the Americans who struggled with defining boundaries between work and the rest of their lives.

Live to work? Why are so many Americans so focused on their work that they can’t enjoy their time with family and friends? Could it be because many Americans pursue careers based on their interests or passions?

Of course, I know many people in America who work to live. Their motivation for work is to pay the bills–to support their families or to become independent. They may not be able to find a job that interests them, and they fulfill their passions outside of the workplace.

What motivation do I desire for my work, which is also my writing life?

Do I want to work to live? Do I want to put in my hours of writing each day; then, enjoy my time with family and friends? Yes!

Or do I want to live to work? Do I want to pursue interesting work? Yes! Do I want to be passionate about my writing life? Yes!

So, is it possible to live to work and to work to live? That is my prayer.

And that is where I believe that I must start in my work–by seeking God in prayer first for direction in all areas of life, including my writing life.

Do you live to work/write? Or do you work/write to live?

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Karen Jordan writes creative nonfiction about her faith, family, and writing. She also encourages others to “tell the stories that matter most” in her writing workshops, her blog, BLESSED Legacy Stories, and her website (www.karenjordan.net).


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Mary Larmoyeux: Remember the First Moonwalk: One Small Step for Man

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Neil Armstrong, one of the first two men to land on the Moon, and the first to walk on it, in 1969 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

One small step for man. One giant leap for mankind. (Neil Armstrong)

On July 20, 1969, the lunar module Eagle landed on the moon. Six hours later, Commander Neil Armstrong stepped onto its surface.

Do you remember that day … that “moment”?

I do.

My dad and I walked outside our home on that very night. “See the moon, Mary,” he said, pointing high into the heavens. “A man is walking up there.”

I remember the darkness … the light of the moon … the sense of awe.

Soon we will mark the 43rd anniversary of the Armstrong’s declaration, “One small step for man. One giant leap for mankind.”

I don’t know if I’ve ever mentioned that July night to my grandkids, but I’m going to. What about you? Do you remember when a man walked on the moon?

I’m reminded of the words of Psalm 8: “When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place, what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him?” (Ps. 8:3-4 NIV1984)

Do you remember the first moonwalk? Where were you when the Eagle landed on the moon?

Mary May Larmoyeux and her husband, Jim, live near Little Rock, Arkansas. Family is very important to her—just ask about her six grandchildren. She also loves anything to do with the great outdoors.

Her articles have published in The Family Room, Discovery Years, Fresh Outlook, Maumelle Living, AY Magazine, etc.. She has a blog for grandparents, The Grand Connection, and also is a regular blogger for The Marketplace Connection.

Mary has written several books including Help for Busy Moms: Purposeful Living to Simplify Life and The Grand Connection: 365 Ways to Connect With Your Grandchild’s Heart.

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Neil Armstrong narrating his landing using Google Moon (YouTube/SpaceyStuff)
Legendary moonwalker Neil Armstrong narrates his own moon landing (FoxNews.com)