Archive | April 2012

Beating the Procrastination Boogie-Man, Part Two

Writer's Procrastination

Procrastination Boogie-Man

Most writers I know battle a boogie-man. His name — Procrastination.

Last week, I shared my own procrastination habit-breakers. But today, I thought we’d consult an expert.

Let’s peek into the mind of Dr. Bill Knaus, an expert on the subject. His first suggestion is to accept what procrastination is and isn’t. Let’s see what he has to say.

Here are Dr. Knaus’s top three ideas to overcome your temptation to procrastinate:

1. Accept that procrastination is an automatic problem habit, and that the habit can be broken in areas where it is important to do so.

2. Accept that the “later is better” belief is an illusion. You can tell this illusion by its result—you repeat the procrastination pattern.

3. Accept that it takes time and effort to decrease the impact of this negative avoidance process and to direct your efforts toward what you want to accomplish—even

in areas where you would traditionally procrastinate.

Dr. Knaus offers these solutions to curbing procrastination.

1. Keep your eye on the priority you want to accomplish.

2. Undercut the procrastination process by forcing yourself to act to do what is important or timely to do.

3. Refuse to capitulate to the various forms of procrastination thinking that support delay. This process of curbing procrastination impulses gets easier with practice, but it is also easy to slip back. So, watch out for relapses. Learn your early warning signals. Address them as soon as you recognize them.

No matter how hard you work to overcome the habit of procrastination, expect lapses and relapses. The process involves pressure and relapses that maintains its magnetic pull. But it’s also what sharpens you into a disciplined, pointed writer.

Like other challenges in life, I’ve come to believe procrastination isn’t something you get over, it’s something you learn to work through.

How have you beat the procrastination boogie-man?

StoryWriting Studio Four Faces of Fear

Fear Has Four Faces

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her family.

Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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For the Rest of Your Life (by David Andrews)

I’ve been underfed,
I’ve been overdrawn,
I’m tired of walking this fine line for so long,
I’ve been looking for you in all the wrong places.
So who will come to the aid of a man like me.
(“A Man Like Me” by Derek Lind)

Life is busy, there are many things that keep us occupied and distracted. Most of this ‘busyness’ wears us down, and tires us out. We need someone or something to come to our rescue. Sooner than later we start to long for that wonderful time of year where we can sit on the beach, climb into the hammock, close our eyes and drift away while the sun warms our soul. Paradise.

While this is the experience of many of us, something seems wrong with this picture. Something seems very wrong. Is this really all there is to life – waiting for the next break, the next holiday to relax and rest? Is this what the rest of our life looks like? Is it the best we can hope for?

We have an opportunity to turn all of this upside down. Imagine for a moment what it would be like to find a place of rest and then operate our lives from this place. I’m not talking about sitting on a beach with a laptop. I’m talking about getting away with Jesus, taking a rest, and getting (as my American friends would say) the heck out of Dodge.

Jesus wants us to experience his way, his rhythm of life, his rhythm of grace. From this place we can still achieve all the things we need and want to do. Actually it’s more what Jesus wants us to do and be. It’s a change of attitude and mindset. It’s a change of culture.

Here’s how the band Jesus Culture describes it:

Come away with Me, Come away with Me
It’s never too late, it’s not too late
It’s not too late for you

I have a plan for you
It’s gonna be wild
It’s gonna be great
It’s gonna be full of Me
(“Come Away” by Jesus Culture)

How do we do this? How do we come away? We choose to, we ask Jesus for his rest, and we believe it. It’s really that simple.

So what about you? How will you spend the rest of your life? What do you need to stop doing? Will you take up Jesus’ invitation to come away? Maybe you’re doing this now. Would you share your experience, here or somewhere? It may help someone find their place of rest, for the rest of their life.

Finally, here’s my take from Jesus’ view on rest – his unforced rhythm of grace.

The Rhythm of Grace
by David Andrews

Are you tired and weary
Sick of running this race
Come away with me
Learn the rhythm of grace

Are you weighed down
By the burdens that you face
Come away with me
Learn the rhythm of grace

Are you over religion
Has the salt lost its taste
Come away with me
Learn the rhythm of grace

Do you need real rest
But can’t find it at your place
Come away with me
Learn the rhythm of grace

I can set you life free
Watch me, seek my face
Come walk with me
Learn my rhythm of grace

Image: markuso / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
YouTube/  (Jesus Culture: “Come Away”)

 How will you spend the rest of your life? What do you need to stop doing?

An Impossible Dream?

To dream the impossible dream

To fight the unbeatable foe

To bear with unbearable sorrow

To run where the brave dare not go

(Joe Darion, “Impossible Dream” )

Recently, on the WordServe Water Cooler, I shared a story from my academic journey a few years ago in Spain–Sergio: A Memoir from My Writing Life.

My writing life has taken me in a different direction from learning a second language now, as I pursue writing for publication. But during that particular season of life in Spain, God taught me a lot about His strength and my weaknesses.

Sometimes God leads us to do the impossible. I’ve written more about “Facing the Impossible” on my personal blog.

In Spain, immersed in another culture and language, I discovered that I had taken on something far beyond my own abilities. I had heard that people tend to “rise to their level of incompetence” (Peter Principle). I experienced that reality in Spain.

I felt I’d been pacing myself quite well, as I pursued a course of study as a nontraditional student. But after a few weeks in Spain, I lost all energy and crashed—physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. As they say in the sports world, I “hit the wall.”

But in the process, I also re-discovered several important spiritual truths.

  • Some things are impossible to do in my own strength. “Humanly speaking, it is impossible …” (Matt. 19:26 NLT).
  • All things are possible with God. “… But with God everything is possible.” (ibid.)
  • I can do anything God calls me to do. “… I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength” (Phil. 4:13).
  • God will complete the work that He began in me. “And I am certain that God, who began the good work within (me), will continue his work until it is finally finished …” (Phil. 1:6).
  • God gives me His strength, when I am weak. “That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Cor. 12:10).
In looking for a clip of “The Impossible Dream,” I found this scene from Man of La Mancha, ”which was … inspired by Miguel de Cervantes‘s seventeenth century masterpiece Don Quixote. It tells the story of the “mad” knight, Don Quixote, as a play within a play, performed by Cervantes and his fellow prisoners as he awaits a hearing with the Spanish Inquisition” (Wickipedia)
 
YouTube/nibelungenstar (from Man of La Mancha, 1972, directed by Arthur Hiller)

What impossible task do you face today?

The Big 3

Overwhelmed

This seems to be the word of the month for me. I’ve been reading One Perfect Word by Debbie Macomber and it talks about choosing a word to focus on for an entire year. I love the book and highly recommend it and the principle it teaches, but this month has just been “one of those”. So, like a good subtitle on a book, I choose overwhelmed as my monthly sub-word.

There are many things in my life clamoring for first-place attention and I struggle to know which needs to be the top priority any given day. I know I’m not alone because even advertisers recognize this challenge. There are several nutrition-type periodicals that I read. One vitamin manufacturer placed a full-page ad and styled it as a letter to consumers. It touted his “Big 3″ supplements that he thinks everyone should take, and was based on the idea that people he meets are overwhelmed and confused by too much, and sometimes conflicting, information. So he has simplified it for us into the “Big 3″.

He’s onto something. Not just in nutrition, but life in general. We are bombarded with information everywhere we turn. The internet is a constant companion between our computers, smart phones, smart TV’s, tablets, and smart e-readers. Sometimes I feel just plain dumb. And when it all seems like too much, I tune out. I guess I’m not only like a cat, as I wrote last week, but also like a turtle. I will pull my head into my shell and let the world go on without me when I feel overwhelmed.

At times like this, it’s easy for me to throw my hands up and say I don’t have time when it comes to writing, too. It’s simpler to pull back than engage. But I need to remember my call, the reason I write. It isn’t for only me. The Lord wants to use me to encourage others.

So when you feel overwhelmed, remember the “Big 3″:

1. Begin each day with prayer and Bible reading. I’m sure you know this, but I’m not so sure we all do it. The more packed our schedules, the more time we need in the morning to listen to the Lord and lay it all out before Him.

2. Set aside adequate time for the writing you need to do each day. Set a goal either for word-count or pages or chapters, determine how long it takes you to do it on average, and plan ahead to spend that much time in your seat. That means bottom stuck to chair. It may help to set an alarm. If you need to divide the time into chunks with physical activity in between, that’s fine.

3. Turn off all access to the internet until your writing goal is met. If you write on-line, be sure to stay on your site until you’re finished.

What strategies do you use when you feel overwhelmed? Does your writing suffer, or does writing help you focus?

Kathryn also writes at www.kathryngraves.wordpress.com and www.kathryngraves.blogspot.com.

Beating the Procrastination Boogie-Man, Part One

Procrastination Boogie-Man

The Mouth of the Boogie-Man

The temptation to procrastinate is one of the biggest millstones to any writer.

When I need to write is precisely when the mood strikes to clean my house, or pay my bills. And yet when I need to clean or pay bills, I bemoan the fact that I need to write.  This inner turmoil can swallow up all my writing time.

What is it with us writer-types that we can’t get it together? Will someone please make up my mind???

I’ve spent too much time trying to remove the procrastination habit from its comfortable position around my neck. So here’s some ideas I use to stuff his mouth, leaving me free to get things done.

  • Decide to make today my day for giving up my membership in the procrastinator’s club.
  • Come up with creative ways to make the work fun. (Sometimes I make little competitions with myself. It may sound silly, but it works for me).
  • Define procrastination. According to Dr. Bill Knaus, “It’s an automatic habit leading to a needless delay of a timely, relevant, priority activity until another day or time. In brief, you procrastinate when you habitually put off a timely activity with a deadline, or where needless delays can affect your health, happiness, effectiveness, relationships, sense of worth, or other important personal matters.”
  • Decide to focus on what is meaningful or important to do.
  • Imagine what the future will look like if you get to work. Now imagine the consequences if you don’t.
  • Prepare everything you can in advance, so you don’t allow yourself the excuse or distraction of getting things ready.
  • Allow yourself timed breaks. This gives you something to look forward to, and keeps you from straying too long.
  • Sit my behind in a seat in front of a keyboard until I write SOMETHING!

By using these little tricks, it keeps me moving forward, one word at a time. Until finally, I clamp procrastination’s mouth shut, and another project is finished.

Don’t let the Procrastination Boogie-Man swallow your writing time. How have you closed his mouth? 

Nothing feels better than typing — THE END!

 Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her family.Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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A Writer Remembers (by Pamela Cable)

Our special guest today is Pamela Cable. Thanks for sharing your story with the StoryWriting Studio, Pam!

A Writer Remembers (Courage for those with a passion to write)

by Pamela Cable

Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? (Matthew 6:26)

Swarms of finches, wrens, and other tiny birds peck and hunt for food at feeders hanging outside my kitchen window. Even when I forget to fill the feeders, the birds arrive each morning, hoping to discover their next meal. Constant, vigilant, driven, they never give up. Despite the odds and possible dangers, the birds return every day.

Writers are like tiny birds. We beat our heads against one roadblock after another, writing against enormous odds, hoping and believing our next book will land in the laps of readers across the country. But after decades into our career, we sometimes must go back into our memories and recall what made us write in the first place, and the courage it took.

My granddaddy was a coal miner, but my father escaped the mines, went to college and moved his family to Ohio to work for the rubber companies. I spent every weekend as a child, traveling back to the West Virginia Mountains. My memories of my childhood are as strong as a steel-belted radial tire and run as deep as the Appalachian creeks and swimming holes I swam in as a child. My career as a writer was born in the dust laden coal towns of the early ‘sixties.

For me, it is within sanctuaries of brick and mortar, places of clapboard and revival tents transcending time and space, that characters hang ripe and ready for picking.

From the primitive church services of mountain clans to the baptisms and sacraments of robed priests in great cathedrals and monasteries. From hardworking men and women who testify in the run-down churches of coal camps to the charismatic high-dollar high-tech evangelicals in televised mega-churches of today. Therein lie stories of unspeakable conflict, the forbidden, and often, the unexplained.

As a writer, it is my desire to transport a reader’s mind—but my deepest passion is to pierce a reader’s heart with faith. For me, faith has a way of doing that like nothing else.

My mother says I cut my teeth on the back of a church pew. I grew up in revival tents, tabernacles, and eventually in grand cathedrals with TV cameras rolling. In the early days, revivals were as exciting as the carnival coming to town and evangelists were royalty. I experienced a world from the sublime to the bizarre. It caused me to weave religion and spirituality into my stories. Stories that hint to an ancient bridge where the real and the supernatural meet.

Many of my stories are based on truth, shreds of truth, people I’ve known, places I’ve been, and of course history plays a great part in some stories, like Coal Dust On My Feet; a love story set amidst the longest and most violent coal strike in the history of our country. It is truth and fiction.

Mother was a skilled storyteller without knowing it. All I wanted to do when I grew up was duplicate her life. I loved her southern accent and heritage and I felt neither imprisoned nor put off by it. But the most precious gift she gave me was a love for the written world, be it the word of God or of Mother Goose. Mom was my inspiration, and one day I picked up a pencil in the sixth grade and wrote my first story. I haven’t stopped since. The next forty years played into my storytelling, and after surviving life’s heartaches and hardships, it gave me plenty to write about.

A writer’s life is a solitary life. We hope we possess raw talent, unique originality, and gut emotional appeal. We raise the stakes on each and every page and hope, and pray, and believe that some day we’re blessed a bit of luck.

Is it worth the struggle? You bet it is. All you need, is the courage of a tiny bird.

”Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, He it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee” (Deuteronomy 31:6).

The courage God gives us is not confidence, nor the opposite of meekness. It’s feeling a measure of confidence, and then acting on those feelings. It’s a quality of spirit that enables you to face the moment, whatever comes, and keep going.

Courage allows you to see, hear, smell, and taste things as they really are. Courage makes you face facts, unfiltered by rosy daydreams. Courage frees you to be creative. It pushes you to prepare for the unknown without obsessing over it. To be open to what may come.

A writer can’t be open to new ideas if dazed and confused by fear. Courage enables you to be prepared and wide awake in every situation.

There were times in my youth I didn’t write because I was afraid of failing. I didn’t prepare for success because I was afraid it might happen. I didn’t look, really look, into my past because I was afraid of what I might find. As I grow older, I don’t give myself those options. Not anymore.

Fear is passive-aggressive. It’s the lazy writer’s excuse for not moving forward. It’s a great immobilizer, an avoidance technique. Fear puts the focus on what we might encounter, distracts us from what’s actually there. Courage empowers a writer to pay attention.

In the end, a writer can do without a lot of things. Remembering your journey is not one of them. Courage is the other.

Pamela Cable is the author of the highly acclaimed collection of short stories, Southern Fried Women. Born a coal miner’s granddaughter and raised by a tribe of wild Pentecostals and storytellers, Pamela is an award-winning, multi-published author who loves to write about religion and the spirituality she unearths from her family’s history. Pamela studied creative writing at The University of Akron and Kent State University. She has taught at many writing conferences, and speaks to book clubs, women’s groups, national and local civic organizations, and at churches across the country. More than a decade in the writing, her novel, Televenge, will be available in October 2012. She lives on a farm in Ohio with her husband, Michael. To learn more about the author, you can visit www.pamelacable.com.

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Four Tips To Improve Your Listening Skills

 “Are you listening to me?” Has anyone ever asked you that question? Or maybe that thought pierced your heart and mind, as you felt the sting of someone else ignoring or rejecting you?

Consider these four ways to improve your listening skills.

  1. Resolve to be quick to listen. Many times, people who come to us for help, just need for us to listen. James 1:19 offers this advice, “Understand this … You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry” (NLT).
  2. Decide to be available. Jesus gives us an example of a wise counselor who made Himself available to listen. “The apostles returned to Jesus from their ministry tour and told him all they had done and taught” (Matt. 6:30).
  3. Desire a discerning heart. Not only does Jesus listen, He discerned the needs of others. When His disciples came to Him after their ministry tour, Jesus observes their need for solitude and rest: “Let’s go off by ourselves to a quiet place and rest awhile” (ibid.).
  4. Choose to be quiet. Jesus also taught His disciples the importance of being quiet. In Matthew 11:15, Jesus asks his disciples, “Are you listening to me? Really listening? (MSG)

At times our failure to listen before responding can provoke a negative, emotional response from our loved ones or friends, who we may need our help. In fact, Proverbs 18:13 warns us, “Answering before listening is both stupid and rude” (MSG)

What can we offer others with our response, after we listen to their needs?

  • Grace, not criticism or judgment. Romans 2:4 reminds us, ”Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?” (NLT)
  • Companionship. We must encourage others to be dependent upon Jesus, not co-dependent upon us. Jesus promised His followers, “I’ll be with you … day after day after day, right up to the end of this age” (Matt. 28:20 MSG).

So, the next time someone comes to you for help, I hope you ask yourself this question first: “Are you listening … Really listening?” (Matt. 11:15)

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How have your listening skills helped you as a writer? 

Out from Under the Overhead Cart

My friend, Carolyn, asked me if I was doing any writing. She’d been asking for months, and aways the answer was the same.

“Not yet.”

Although I felt God’s call on my life to write, I was terrified. The conviction twisted my insides into knots.

A few days later, an old memory replayed in my mind.

“Your assignment is to give a three- to five-minute demonstration speech. We will begin presenting next Monday.”

Those words from my seventh grade English teacher sent my stomach on an elevator ride to my feet. I had no idea what I could do that was worthy of demonstrating to the class, so I turned to my mother for help.

“Why don’t you show how to give a cat a pill?” she said.

Her words pushed the “up” button for my heart elevator. As it rose, enthusiasm came along for the ride. “That’s a great idea,” I gushed. “I’ve been doing that for a week. I’m good at it now, and Siam is all well.”

The euphoria didn’t last long, however. By Friday I was frantic. How can I make this last three whole minutes? I wondered as I wrote out note cards.

In class on Monday, as the teacher began speaking, a furry blur rocketed through the still-open door, scampered across the floor, and lodged itself under the overhead projector cart. Realizing it must be Siam, I became certain I was living my final moments at the age of twelve. This was confirmed by the appearance of my mother in the doorway.

The teacher called on all the other students before me, giving the cat time to relax, come out from his hiding place, and curl up in my lap. Just before the end of class I gave a flawless speech with a cooperative cat.

As the memory faded, I realized Siam had reasons for hiding under that cart, and I was acting very cat-like in my current circumstance.

I’m afraid I’ll have to take medicine if I stop hiding. I, too, was afraid of doing something that might make me uncomfortable.

If I stop hiding, I won’t be able to control what happens. The thought of doing something I’d never done before terrified me. So I retreated to what felt small, comfortable, and routine.

If I stop hiding, I’ll be on display and people will see my faults. If I agreed to write, my inner thoughts would be on display for the world to see.

If I stop hiding, somebody can hold me. I believe this is the reason Siam finally came creeping out from under the overhead cart. He needed to be held. And so did I. Jesus Christ longed to hold me and calm my fears, but He couldn’t do that if I hid from Him.

The next time Carolyn asked me if I was writing, I could joyfully say I was. No matter what Jesus Christ calls us to do, He is there to carry us beyond our greatest fears.

Taken from Kathryn’s story in the book, When God Steps In: True Stories of Transformation by God’s Grace, Essence Publishing, 2006

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